Positive Psychology is the scientific study of the strengths that enable individuals and communities to thrive. The field is founded on the belief that people want to lead meaningful and fulfilling lives, to cultivate what is best within themselves, and to enhance their experiences of love, work, and play.
I love the positiveness of it. I love the focus on cultivating what is best in people.
I am still in the beginning stages of learning more about positive psychology from the book Flourish by Martin Seligman and the associated well-being theory. It seems to reinforce many of the things I believe.
I will continue my study and I hope to implement the book’s direct recommendations to improve my own well-being and the well-being of those around.
I love to have conversations with people that high emotional intelligence.
I love to speak with others that can empathize and are really interested in others. I love when I speak with others that “get” emotional intelligence and the benefits of having a high EQ. It is how good leaders become great! Here’s a quick video on the subject:
I love to have conversations with people that high emotional intelligence!
I love to look at the better side of situations. I love to see the opportunities where there are difficulties.
Dwelling on the negative serves no purpose. I would rather use my energy to positively affect a situation if I can have an impact. Otherwise, if for some reason, I do not have direct or indirect control over a situation and I am not able to affect change, then I don’t worry about it.
I change my perspective. I deal with it. I change my attitude or try to get out of the negative situation. If all else fails, I always have my family to reflect on and know that I am blessed.
Having said that, one of the primary environments that should the most positive is the home life. It takes some effort to make it a positive environment if it already isn’t, but it is well worth it. The good thing is that your effort is the primary ingredient needed to make your home environment positive.
You have to be positive and patient especially if your home environment has largely been negative in the past. The negative environment was not created in a day so it may be tough to reverse but not impossible. It is worth the effort. Try it.
I love when people come to me when they are on the fence about something. I love to give them a nudge in a direction that may be beneficial to them financially, physically and/or emotionally.
I love to motivate others once they have started a course of action.
For example, if someone has told me they are trying to get healthier, I will hold them to it. I will encourage healthier choices like taking the stairs with them and choosing to go out to eat at a healthier place with them. I like to walk the talk.
If they are trying to do well at work, I love to share books, ideas, articles and things they can do in general that will benefit them in their professional career.
I love to do this not only because it will benefit them but I also get great satisfaction when someone succeeds.
I remember years ago someone asked me if he should start his own business. I told him: yes, definitely. You can do it.
Now he has a multi million dollar business. Fabulous. I am very happy for him.
Sometimes all someone needs are a few words of encouragement. I love to provide those words.
I love to see the reaction on people’s faces, their smile. I love it when they appear to be serious and I compliment them or say a kind word and they suddenly brighten up.
I love brightening up someone’s day. I love to tell someone that they are wearing a nice dress, or a nice shirt or nice shoes. I enjoy hearing the words thank you from them, but I don’t expect to receive any return compliments.
Sometimes I have to force myself to compliment others. Not because I don’t believe what I’m going to say, but because I have to get over the fact that someone will think that I am weird. I talk myself into it complimenting others by just getting over it and speaking.
I love to compliment others on the colors they are wearing or the prints they are using or on the haircut they just had. The little things make a difference even if some people are not receptive to compliments.
I love telling others that they have done something well or that they have put in a good effort. I like to think that it adds a little highlight to their day. I know it does for me.
I feel good telling others positive compliments that I really believe. That’s why I will continue to do it.
Here’s Seth’s advice: Every time you hear an expert use a word or concept you don’t understand, stop her and ask to be taught. Every time. After just a few interactions, you’ll have a huge advantage over those who didn’t ask.